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Zyngaru

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Spank Club vs Punishment Spanking
« on: December 07, 2018, 10:49:34 am »
Help me to understand something, Please.

I have been reading Jack's Advent story and this question came to mind.  I didn't want to ask it there, because I didn't want to take away from his great story with a discussion on something other than his story.

In the story it has been mentioned a couple times already and I am sure it will be mentioned more, because one boy is "cruising for a bruising," he just doesn't realize it yet.

So it has been mentioned about how much these boys in the Red Club either enjoy being spanked or giving a spanking and some enjoy both.  It has also been mentioned by more than one boy in the story that Dad's spanking is worse then the spankings given in Club Red, even when the Red Club spanking is more severe.  Why is that?

Being a non-spanko.  Maybe the only one on this forum, I am curious.  Those that know anything about me, know that I am a curious type of person.  I love to learn about things and this spanko thing is something that I am very curious about.  I have both given and received whippings.  I have received many more than I have given.  I didn't enjoy either.

I have my ideas about why the boys in Advent, feel the way they do about the difference between a Club spanking and a Dad spanking.  But they are just ideas of a non-spanko, without the inside personal knowledge of the subject.  This isn't a topic that can be asked at MMSA, because that forum is totally about fictional story spankings and not the real thing.  This question isn't about fictional stories, but about the real world of spankings.  Why will a person, boy or man, enjoy being given a severe real life spanking and fear/hate getting a regular punishment spanking?

I suspect that the answer to this question will be different with each person who is willing to tell me why they enjoy either being spanked or giving spankings or both.  I am sure this is a personal thing, so I also understand anyone not wishing to answer this, because it is so personal.  But for those that will honestly share why they feel the way they feel about this, I am very appreciative. I purposefully didn't type any of my reasonings, because I don't want to dilute your answers with ideas from someone with no knowledge of the topic. 

So why is a club spanking, even when it is very severe enjoyable, when a spanking from dad or other authority figure isn't?

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Re: Spank Club vs Punishment Spanking
« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2018, 12:36:44 pm »
For emotional reasons. Most of us are interested in spanking in one way or other here, so that part, which would be hard to understand for many people, is easy to understand for us. However, being spanked by your parents when you are a kid can cause powerful negative emotions that drown out any excitement. When you are a kid your parents are probably the most important people in your life. You depend on them, you love them, and their love is all important for you. That they are mad enough or disappointed enough at you to punish you, and to punish you in that seemingly most severe way, can make you feel awful. Therefore, you can like spanking in general but not like to be in trouble with your parents.
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Re: Spank Club vs Punishment Spanking
« Reply #2 on: December 07, 2018, 12:50:48 pm »
This isn't a topic that can be asked at MMSA, because that forum is totally about fictional story spankings and not the real thing.  This question isn't about fictional stories, but about the real world of spankings.  Why will a person, boy or man, enjoy being given a severe real life spanking and fear/hate getting a regular punishment spanking?

I think you can also ask this question in the MMSA forum. What's not welcome there is discussion about the pros and cons of spanking children in real life. However, questions about trying to understand our interest in spanking are on topic there.
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Re: Spank Club vs Punishment Spanking
« Reply #3 on: December 07, 2018, 01:28:11 pm »
Zyngaru, it's about the head space a boy goes to in each situation. When a punishment spanking comes from a parent or authority figure, there are different feelings and emotions involved - sadness, guilt, embarassment and an element of a lack of control of the situation ... the boy knows the spanking won't stop until the parent or caregiver decides it stops.  Being spanked by, or giving a spanking to, another boy, has an element of excitement to it, anticipation even, endorphins run high ... the feelings and emotions are totally different ... and I'm sure you noticed the use of a safe word in the last chapter ... the spankee can decide when it ends ... so he feels in control
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Re: Spank Club vs Punishment Spanking
« Reply #4 on: December 07, 2018, 03:22:43 pm »
I think Daniel and dthorn have explained this very well, and I don't really have anything to add, except just a few words.

A spanking from Dad has just about every negative emotion you can think of associated with it.  Fear, because you don't have a safeword and can't control when it stops; anger, because you very likely don't think it should be happening; shame, because it is humiliating to be bared and spanked against your will; frustration, because you feel misunderstood; and rejection, because your relationship with Dad could be at risk.

None of those negatives would be present in a spanking club.  Instead, you are in the company of others who are like you and really share your feelings.  You are in control, with or without a safeword, because you have the power to stop what is happening even though you never use that power.  And you are excited by what is happening and that excitement diminishes the pain and any other negative emotions.

So yes, a spanking taken voluntarily in a spanking club setting would very likely be more severe than what you got from Dad, but the emotional impact would be completely different.
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Re: Spank Club vs Punishment Spanking
« Reply #5 on: December 07, 2018, 05:27:48 pm »
Depending on how you look at it, I think it comes down to a couple of things.  What everyone else has described so far is what I consider emotional content.   I'm not sure if this would be considered the same thing or not, but I think a lot of it comes down to voluntary versus compulsory.  Of course, a third consideration might lie in the difference between friends and parents.  I think what it really boils down to is that the circumstances surrounding the event are what decides if it's pleasant or not.
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Re: Spank Club vs Punishment Spanking
« Reply #6 on: December 29, 2018, 05:35:12 am »
The two points not mentioned. not sure anger with oneself for getting in that situation

The other is the chances are there is very likely  a size and weight differential with a parent spanking a child that wont be there if  the spaking is from a peer or adult to adult. The domination is real, not created

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Re: Spank Club vs Punishment Spanking
« Reply #7 on: December 29, 2018, 07:43:44 am »
For me, it's mostly about the emotional overlay.  Play spankings are high endorphin arousing fun.  Parental ones were awful, not because they hurt so much physically, but because of shame at getting the people you most loved upset enough to do THAT to you and feeling like you'd really let them down.  As an adult, for me at least, it's mostly about giving up or taking control, even if it's given and taken with a consensual safe word.