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How are Barrett, Drake and Ed doing? Are they adapting to living with Dillon again?



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Dillon came over yesterday afternoon, and we talked a while, so this seemed like a good time to catch up a few things.

Dillon is still talking to and corresponding with Gina.  One of Dillon's biggest problems - and I'm sure I've shared this before - is that he's not very forceful.  This entire situation is really pretty hard on him, but it sounds like he's standing his ground with her.  He is seeing a therapist, and I think he knows that she has to be willing to work some therapy - on her own and as a couple - if they're going to be able to work things out.  I liked Gina in the 90s, when we were role playing friends, but I think she definitely has some troubles, and her problems seem to be a really bad fit for Dillon's problems/weaknesses.

Gina is still in jail.  Her misdemeanor charge is complete, but she's still waiting for her next court date on the felony charge.  I believe Dillon said the next hearing is 13 September, so still a couple of weeks.  The last I heard, she just intends to take the plea bargain she previously turned down.

I've also talked to Barrett, but I was able to confirm a few things when Dillon and I talked yesterday.  Barrett is doing well, and he's really happy to be in a position where he can go to school full time.  Now that he's actually started, he needs to take a month or so to see how things go, before he decides on how school is working and how much more time he wants to take. Money and is little brothers also come into it, but Dillon is basically working full time and making good money, so Barrett is working part-time, so he can do school and stay home with Ed and Drake.

Things are a bit rough on Ed and Drake still.  Part of it is the move and their mom not being around, but a lot of it is that Dillon is trying to be more consistent, and both boys were a little spoiled in the 'used to minding when they felt like it' way.  I think Barrett had mostly broke them from that, but it's taking longer for them to get used to it from their dad.  Dillon doesn't like it, but he does understand it, and he seems to feel it's easier with Barrett supporting (and pushing him) to do it, where Gina was generally worse than he was about letting them get away with stuff.  I know both of them have had several spankings since my last update, and it sounds like Drake can't go a full lately without getting in trouble.

Cute Story: Barrett spanked Drake last week for lying about homework.  Barrett was trying to get his own homework done.  After Drake's spanking, Barrett lost track of time a bit, and he wasn't sure how long it had been when he went back to make sure Drake was okay and doing (or had finished) his homework.  When he walked in, Drake wasn't doing his homework, but one of his friends had come over, and they both had pants and shorts around their knees, checking each other out.  Apparently it had started with Drake showing his red rear, but progressed.  I've met this boy.  He's 9,  Hispanic, and cute as heck.  The poor kid was panicky about Barrett telling his mom, but Barr pretty much agrees with me on that, and saw no reason to mention it.

And that's about it.  Dillon is lonely right now. We're planning to have a relatively small group over Saturday night to watch Avengers: Infinity War, so I invited Dillon to bring the boys and sleepover, and we'll see where it goes.

Dillon, Ed, and Drake did sleep over here on Saturday and Sunday nights (though they went home  Sunday). 

Saturday was a planned night for the kids to have a small group of friends over.  Ed and Drake get along well with Connor and Curtis, so there was no problem there.  All of us (all my kids and a guest for everyone) squeezed into the theater and we watched Avengers: Infinity War, plus some cartoons and stuff.  We started with fajita nachos for dinner, then had popcorn, candy, and soda.  It was a fun evening.

Dillon and I did sleep together Saturday night, but that's as far as it went. 

Sunday was a pretty quiet day with everyone catching up.  We didn't have a lot of guests over, and we didn't do anything big.  We probably had close to as many people as normal, but it was all smaller groups, and it just seemed quieter.

Dillon brought the boys back over Sunday evening, which ended up not being a good thing for them.

Monday was Labor Day, so Sunday wasn't a school night, but I made it very clear to the boys that that wasn't a license to stay up very late.  Dillon was right there, so I was able to double check that I was very clear about the rules.  Despite that, when it came time to start getting ready for bed, I still gave them another, very specific, warning when they started ignoring me and offering passive resistance.

Long story short, since I'm sure you see exactly where this is going, and nothing they did was particularly funny or unique, they all ended up getting a taste of the Tailblazer.  I managed to get Ed and Curtis both over my lap together, and I gave them both a good dose.  Since Drake is the oldest by more than just a bit, and because he's spent a lot of time over here, I let Connor go next.  Drake was NOT happy about that.  Now, these weren't barnburners, but the boys had had second chances and ignored them, so I'm sure their little rear ends were stinging and aching before I finished.  I know they were all having good, hard cries before they got up.

Dillon actually watched.  He wasn't happy about it, but he was paying attention, and he actually asked some questions later.  From what he was saying, while it's still hard on him to be strict, I think he realizes that it does help the boys when he has clear, consistent standards, and when he enforces them.

After they finished crying, we got everyone cleaned up and bedtime went much more easily. 

While Barrett didn't join us, Dillon and I stayed up with some of my older boys for a while, and he and I took the time just to talk about stuff - comics and movies and how his job is going.

When we retired to my bedroom, I jokingly chastised him about being a naughty daddy and making me do all the spanking.  I undressed him, then put him over my lap for a playful spanking.  Both of us were hard after that, and we slept together again, but this time we definitely did more than sleep.

That’s great news and I hope everything keeps going good for him....


Thanks for the update jack




Hugs kal

Does Barrett have a consistent way of spanking his brothers, hand/implement etc. Seems if he gets stressed he could come down much harder than he needs as such a young 'parent'?

Barret wasn't exactly consistent, but he did seem to take things into account like both the age of the boys and their prior history.    He is not, any longer, their primary disciplinarian. 

Now that he and the boys are living down here with Dillon (his step-father, their dad), he's making Dill do most of the actual discipline.  From what I've heard, while Dillon doesn't like being strict, he's keeping to his agreement witih Barrett, and trying to keep the boys inline - including when it calls for the occasional sore bottom.

Thanks for the update and I’m happy that everything seems to be going great for this little family and I hope everything works for the best.....





Hugs kal

First, Dillon has always been a bit asexual - which isn't to say he doesn't like sex, it's just not that much of a driving thing.  After some therapy, and he and I talking it out a few times, he's decided he's actually bi-sexual, but he's really more interested in the person than the gender.  He's not making a big deal out of that at the time, since he doesn't want Gina trying to blow it up during the divorce proceedings.

That's an interesting revelation.  I discovered I was asexual around 50 years of age.  Before that, I was one confused puppy. I just got my first computer and was just surfing around and found AVEN, an asexual site, and the more I read the more I understood that was me.  Probably the greatest misunderstanding about asexuality is that it does NOT mean the person doesn't have a sex drive.  Heck I think asexuals have the strongest sex drives.  Its the fact they don't have a focus for that drive.  Asexuals don't want to have sex, but their urges are tremendous.  Those urges can go either or both genders.  Many asexuals force themselves to have sex with someone to try and fit in.  Anyway it is a much misunderstood orientation.

It does sound like he might still be trying to figure himself out though. Is he bisexual, because he is drawn to both genders?  Not necessarily.  Like in your statement, asexuals are drawn to the person.  It's the inner person they come to like and even love.  It's not about the gender or the sex.

I've rantedenough.  I was just interested, because you don't see much posted about being asexual.