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Posted by: 18Smacked
« on: April 15, 2018, 06:04:23 pm »

As I do not celebrate the same holidays as do most folks, I find that I just don't really relate to certain posts, and thus don't comment to/on them. It is not in any way I object, it's more I don't have experience with which to relate, if that makes sense.

Having said that, I do find that I ted to miss a lot of posts here that when I do see them, find I am "late" in coming to the table. And, I don't recall that happening with such frequency in the old format, though I am not sure that I can really cite how or why this is so.
Posted by: David M. Katz
« on: March 25, 2018, 09:53:58 am »

You all will note that some f these parades have been taken down.  This action is not related to this post but was done because the hosting service took the pictures down and so the pictures could no longer be seen.
Posted by: Adric
« on: March 21, 2018, 04:30:58 pm »

Quote from: David M. Katz on March 21, 2018, 03:40:06 pm
I simply did not want to do something that people found not useful.

I had no way to interpret the lack of response and so I wanted to make sure it wasn't due to the parades falling out of favor.

In view of Dave's response I will add my vote to the Yes column.  I enjoy looking at the parades but I don't always have something worthwhile to say about them in a post.  I am in favor of keeping them as long as they are not laborious to create.
Posted by: Zyngaru
« on: March 21, 2018, 04:18:46 pm »

Quote from: David M. Katz on March 21, 2018, 03:40:06 pm

Lurkers on the parades are always welcome but a comment or two does let me know that people are still interested.

Interested.  Always interested in photos of cute boys.
Posted by: David M. Katz
« on: March 21, 2018, 03:40:06 pm »

Thanks for all of the responses.

Frankly, these are not that hard to do.  Most of them require about 15 minutes on my part. 

My concern was not the amount of time that I was spending nor about if people were looking and not commenting.

I simply did not want to do something that people found not useful.

I had no way to interpret the lack of response and so I wanted to make sure it wasn't due to the parades falling out of favor.

Lurkers on the parades are always welcome but a comment or two does let me know that people are still interested.
Posted by: db105
« on: March 21, 2018, 08:55:48 am »

I agree with Adric. I just do not feel like I have much to say about the parades, so if it's too much work I would not mind if they are discontinued. The BOTD on the other hand is often fun for me.

I mean, they are nice, I'm not against them or anything, but if it's a matter of allocating scarce resources there are other forum features that are more useful for me.
Posted by: Adric
« on: March 21, 2018, 08:33:30 am »

Regarding the holiday/seasonal picture parades, I may not cast a vote on that subject.  It's easy to say "sure, keep doing it" when it isn't any work for me, but I have to ask whether it is really worth the work that goes into it.

Any of the boy pictures are useful to the extent that they offer more chances for BOTD or MMSA story inspiration, but I doubt that I would regularly post comments to a parade just to identify which boys are my favorites.  I do look at the parades but in most cases I don't really have anything to say about them.

So I can go with whatever happens.  If the holiday/seasonal parades keep coming then I will keep looking at them.  If they stop, well, the non-seasonal parades specifically for use in BOTDs will still be there.
Posted by: Jack
« on: March 21, 2018, 04:25:40 am »

Zyngaru - I'm just going to make a few general comments, instead of commenting in depth or point by point.

I think satire can be very hard to do.  Look at A Modest Proposal.  You would think anyone would realize that was satire, yet, from what I understand, many people took it seriously and were offended by it.  It can be especially hard when it's a change in tone, and people aren't sure how you mean it.

As for myself - I have no trouble when people have opinions that differ from mine, though I might feel it's a good idea to cut them off, if continued discussion might become acrimonious. 

I only remember really having a problem with one of your posts, when I was talking about some of the things we were doing in class.  It came across to me that you were running down many of the things I was doing.  I don't know how they came across to other people, but you told me you were just talking about the problems you'd had as a kid.  That's the kind of misunderstanding that happens from time to time.  I remember once when I was kidding with Kat about some changes he'd suggested in one of my stories, but he later told me he thought I was genuinely upset with him.  I lost one internet friend, because I used a word (ridiculous) that was a trigger to him.  I didn't even say he was ridiculous or anything.  He later apologized, but he'd gone off on me in such a dramatic, over the top way that I never felt comfortable talking to him again, though we did try to renew our correspondence after a few months.

So, I'm glad you enjoy the forum.  I hope everyone feels free to post here.  If you have problems with how people take your posts, maybe first look at if it's just one person (and the same person over and again) or if maybe you need to change something about your writing style to be more clear or to avoid certain issues.  While I do think there are certain topics we should or have to avoid, I hope no one feels like they can't post here.
Posted by: Leti
« on: March 20, 2018, 10:36:19 pm »

Thanks for the great job, David, all the photos are very cute,
Hugs
Leti
Posted by: Zyngaru
« on: March 20, 2018, 08:59:51 pm »

Quote from: Jack on March 20, 2018, 04:25:59 pm

I have also noticed that participation overall is down.  I have made posts and received little or no response, so I understand how you might feel you're wasting your time. 


As for posting in general, I have backed off some.  I almost always have something to say about everything, but I also know my opinion differs from just about everyone.  (Politics, Religion, life, spanking, raising boys, boyhood in general)  So a little of me, goes a long way.  I don't want anyone getting disgusted with my view of the world and of life in general.

So lately I have been using emoji's for replying to posts.  Less chance of getting feelings hurt and controversies ignited.

Lately even the BOTD's have become tender for controversy.  I thought those were to be for fun and not taken seriously.  Although when we use real life experiences as the foundation for the BOTD then it is easy for it to become controversial because it becomes personal then.

I tried satire.  Making a joke of my response.  That didn't go over well at all.  So honestly I don't know what to do?  I love this forum.  I would rather just watch than to have confrontation.  I hate confrontation with every fiber of my body.  The older I get the more I hate it too.

So help me understand what is expected and I will try to re-engage.
Posted by: Zyngaru
« on: March 20, 2018, 08:44:42 pm »

I am confused?  I know.  Nothing new.  I stay confused.

I thought the Spring Parade was like the BOTD photos.  You pick photos you want to write a BOTD for.

So I am confused by what you mean by comments?  Are we supposed to comment on each photo?  I mean I can.  There are certain ones I love.  I just didn't think what was the purpose of them being here.
Posted by: Jack
« on: March 20, 2018, 04:25:59 pm »

I think part of the problem is that this new forum doesn't bring things to your attention as well as the original one did.

I have also noticed that participation overall is down.  I have made posts and received little or no response, so I understand how you might feel you're wasting your time. 

As for myself, I'm sorry I haven't had time to visit that thread yet.
Posted by: ivor
« on: March 20, 2018, 03:45:11 pm »

Good question, Katz. I can only imagine your frustration having gone to the trouble of creating these if hardly anyone looks and nobody comments.

I did mean to comment yesterday, but that thread dropped off my radar because I didn't answer when I first saw it.

I don't really want to cast a vote, but I could well understand you deciding not to bother in future if there is minimal response.
Posted by: David M. Katz
« on: March 20, 2018, 03:24:04 pm »

In the "celebrations" area we will post a picture parade for some holiday celebrations and for the four major season changes.  Members are encouraged to participate in the parades and make comments.

Lately there has been reduced participation in these parades with the spring parade receiving no responses (as of the time of this poll.)

Should we stop doing the parades?